Those who choose to abuse another person can be successful, educated, active, healthy and capable individuals. They may present as a caring partner or parent. Many are involved with the community and in their children’s lives. Often they commit the abuse only in secret and out of the public eye. Recognizing an abusive relationship can be hard to do if someone is emotionally connected to the abuser, has been dealing with it for a long time or has only ever been with an abusive partner. Each situation is different but some of the indicators below will almost always be present in an abusive relationship.