People think it should be easy to leave an abuser. It is not. Most victims of abuse face a range of challenges that make leaving tough.
Money is a barrier. Victims are often cut off from finances by the abuser. They are not allowed to work. Those who do work can’t afford to live alone or cover their children’s expenses. Fear of losing custody because of this lack of resources is always present.
Abusers isolate victims. Friends and family get scared and stay away. Few options for support exist. Calling for help can put loved ones at risk. Going to a shelter is full of unknowns. Children often have to switch schools. Transportation can be limited.
Physical violence is a reality for victims. Threats are a norm. The risk of homicide increases when one leaves an abusive relationship. Fear of death or serious injury is real. Family and friends become targets. The circle of pain goes beyond the victim.